Hate, as they say, is a strong word. It is also a costly one. It demands your energy, attention, and—most damning of all—your time. For the weak and the impulsive, hatred can feel like fuel, a fire that drives their every move. But I have learned that my energy is finite, and I refuse to waste it on something so fruitless.

I used to think that proving myself required battling every slight, every obstacle, every person who stood in my way. But over time, I’ve come to understand a simple truth: it takes far less energy to make someone forgettable than to hate them.

The Exhaustion of Hate

Hate is a hungry beast. It devours your time, saps your focus, and leaves you drained with nothing to show for it. It’s an emotional black hole, pulling you into its orbit and refusing to let go. When you hate someone, you give them power—power over your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions. Why would I waste my limited energy on something that offers no return?

When I see others consumed with hate, I can’t help but pity them. They’re caught in an endless loop, replaying slights and grievances, unable to move forward. Meanwhile, I’m already three steps ahead, having let go of the distraction.

Forgetting is Freedom

To make someone forgettable is to reclaim your time. It’s a conscious decision to stop giving them space in your mind. I’ve learned that indifference is far more powerful than anger. Anger ties you to a person; indifference sets you free.

There’s a certain elegance in letting go. When you forget someone, they lose all significance. They become a footnote in your story, a minor character who had their moment and then faded into the background. And that’s the beauty of it: you don’t need to waste energy proving yourself to them or showing them how wrong they were. Their irrelevance does all the work for you.

Energy is a Resource

Life is a finite game, and energy is the currency. I’ve come to see my energy as one of my most valuable resources. Every decision, every thought, every action requires it. So why would I squander it on grudges or vendettas? Instead, I channel my energy into things that matter: growth, creation, connection.

It’s not always easy. There are moments when the sting of a slight feels unbearable, when the temptation to lash out or hold on to resentment is strong. But in those moments, I remind myself: I have nothing to prove to them. My energy is better spent building the life I want than tearing down someone else’s.

The Power of Being Unbothered

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is that being unbothered is a superpower. It’s not about apathy; it’s about priorities. When you stop reacting to every jab, every insult, every perceived slight, you take back control. You stop playing someone else’s game and start playing your own.

I’ve seen people who let their emotions control them, who let hatred consume them until it becomes their identity. And I’ve seen how much it costs them. Their joy, their peace, their focus—all sacrificed at the altar of bitterness. I refuse to let that be me.

Proving Myself Without Wasting Myself

For a long time, I believed I had to prove myself to everyone. To be seen, to be validated, to be respected. But now I know that proving myself isn’t about others at all. It’s about me. It’s about living up to my own potential, fulfilling my own goals, and staying true to my own values. And that’s not something that requires hatred or resentment. It requires focus, effort, and a clear mind.

When I focus on my goals instead of my grievances, I find that success speaks louder than any words ever could. The best way to prove myself is to build a life so full, so meaningful, that the opinions of others become irrelevant.

The Final Word

Hate is a waste of resources. It drains your energy, clouds your mind, and keeps you tethered to people and situations that don’t deserve your attention. Forgetting, on the other hand, is freedom. It’s the ultimate act of self-preservation, a way to conserve your energy for the things that truly matter.

So let others cling to their anger. Let them waste their energy on fruitless battles. As for me, I will continue to move forward, unburdened and unbothered. After all, my energy is finite. I intend to spend it wisely.